I Need Them All to Go To Counseling and Get Tested On The Way!

Yesterday the sex life of pro football player Victor Cruz of the New York Giants was all over Social Media. I'm not sure how it got there, but since it's been made public I thought that I would give my two scents. First off,  all the parties involved need to come hear me speak. This is cra cra crazyyyyy dysfunctional, did I say crazy mess!!

Apparently Victor's finance Elaina Watley sent a group text to an undisclosed group of women letting them know that she knows they are fucking her man. *blank stare*

Yep, she went on record letting the other women know that she knows who they are and she thought it important that they all knew each other. *BAM* She was basically letting the other women know they ain't special. 

I had to really think about this one, and I was gonna hold my piece but ummmmm, the woman that I am and with the work that I do, I couldn't let is pass.

First off, I certainly hope that Elaina did more than text the other women. I hope her first stop was with brother- man with an ultimatum for counseling. No need to ask Victor to stop fucking around because she admits in the text that they have had that conversation countless times, so basically they need professional help if they are going to stay together.

I mean for real, for real. There's  a whole lot of unhealthy, dysfunction behavior on everyone's part and they honestly need professional help.

If Victor is as committed to marrying Elaina as he has lead her to believe, then he needs to work out the "why"  he is publicly committed to one woman and privately fucking around, not only with one woman, but ummm, a group of women, which could mean two on the modest side or three, four or five on the high end.  He needs to work out why it's important for him to spread his penis so thin. I mean if he wants to be a "hoe pro athlete," he needs to have lunch with Magic Johnson to get some big brother advice. 

Secondly, if Elaina has decided to stay, which she probably has because not too many will walk away from the life style of a professional athlete and  most importantly, she probably loves him. And I think the text spoke volumes of desperation to keep what she think she has. If this be the case,  she needs to get some help. Like some serious help. If she thinks she can control his penis by standing her ground with a bunch of other women she is entirely misguided.

I will bet my life that they all think their vagina is better than hers.

I'm sure Elaina thought exposing him would change some shit. Girl, bye! I mean, they certainly know about her. Victor takes Elaina to tons of public appearances, so the fact that he has a "main" woman and they still fucking him, ummm,  If they were bothered by it, they wouldn't be fucking him in the first place, so they certainly ain't bothered by her text. That's some real talk.

And was this text suppose to change him? Girl, Bye! She stated in the text that she has confronted him many times and if that didn't stop the man who says he loves her and committed to marry her from fucking someone other than her, what the hell was a text gonna do? I mean for real, for real.

If Elaina was all of that to Victor, then he wouldn't be fucking around in the first place. Each time he lays down with another woman, he has disrespected her and has given the "other" women permission to do the same. He has basically sent a message to the other women loud and clear,"we can all disrespect her, I give my permission each time I poke my penis inside of you."

Thirdly, and most importantly, a women can't control a man's penis unless it's in her pocket all of the freaking time... So ummm, she needs to go back to point one and two, if she wants to work through the disrespect then they both need professional help cause if things were going to change they would have long before she sent the text.

Now, I'm not getting ready to blast one woman for messing around with him. This isn't about disrespecting Elaina per say, but about self-respect. At the end of the day you can't expect a person to respect another person, if they don't respect themselves.

I must ask, why would any woman waste her pretty on a man that is publicly engaged to another women? They need to go to counseling too, 'cause this seems like it might be a self worth issue rooted in "my pussy is better than yours and if I prove it I just might become the main woman" Girl, Bye! Pussy is Pussy.

At the end of the day, EVERY woman should want more for themselves, including Elaina. When are we as women going to live the life that demands respect of our, mind, body and spirit? 

Lastly, and most importantly this is some messy shit of who's zooming who  and that's how sexually transmitted diseases get passed from one to the other. I hope they are  using condoms, like  or real. Cause 38% of newly infected cases of HIV are people infected by people who didn't know they even had HIV.... Go Get Tested!!!!

And y'all always asking me why black women have more HIV, then any other group of women. Now you see!!!!
  
And then there's Herpes. Black women also bear the brunt of the herpes cases among women at 48%. *sigh* We can change this by changing our behavior!

 And speaking of herpes, y'all do know that  you can have on a condom and still transmit herpes, YEP!

Herpes is transmitted through contact to contact, so even if he has on the condom but the sore is on his balls, where his balls touch the outside of the vagina during sex, is where herpes will land. And vice versa, if she has a sore on the lower part on her vagina, or her vulva you run the risk of infection. And then there's HPV, and most women don't even know they have it. This isn't about blaming or blasting women, this is about some real talk about sexually transmit diseases and how they get spread. If we want to reduce the cases of STD's then we need to take some responsibility for our bodies when and wherever we can. 

And then there's some super bug of Gonorrhea that will take your ass out of here quicker that AIDS and Syphilis has been on the rise since forever. 

So while everyone is staking claim to one penis, I hope someone thought to put a freaking condom on it! And if not, I hope that what they think they know is true, but I gotta say, with all this fucking and lying, everything would be suspect...

At the end of the day, he could give them all something and they can pass it on to their main man, 'cause some side chicks do have a main man.

Or one of them could give him something that he gives it to all of them and no matter how you slice it we got a big ass public health mess. 

So there you have it, my 2 cents!  I just wanted to give my perspective, in case any woman saw this crazy ass shit and thought that Elaina had done some dope shit by sending that text. Actually she did some desperate shit. And for me, a man that drives me to desperation is not worth five more minutes of my life.  I would prefer to be alone without compromising my self worth then to have a millionaire sleeping in my bed, destroying my spirit every chance he gets. *in my auntie voice* I Need Them All to Go To Counseling and Get Tested On The Way!