It's an ongoing struggle, even for overachievers like me. It's interesting, you know in your heart when you are not living up to your own standards, but it's a hard thing to face. Then something happens that forces you to face that hard reality and it hits you like a ton of bricks. That happened to me on World AIDS Day. I hung out with Relana Johnson at her GoodGyrrl dance studio to have a candid discussion with women about dating, sex, and living healthy, and toward the end, someone asked me point blank, "So, since the name of the event here today is *do better* what advice do you have for the women to actually do better?
I submit, you've gotta be willing to take chances to get to the better. Not just with dating, but in all areas of your life. What I know for sure I learned from my mentor Rev. Jesse L. Jackson. He taught me that if you don't run you are guaranteed to lose; if you do run, you might lose. You can't let the fear of failure paralyze you from being the person God intended for you to be or interfere with your life's purpose(s). You can't see His vision, but it's a living being running though your veins and when you alter from what you know to be right, good and purposeful it interferes with God's direction for your life slowing down progress.